ANGER AND HOW TO CONTROL IT

Though it can range from minor irritation to full-on wrath and rage, anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. It can arise from frustrating circumstances, perceived injustices, disappointments, and the like. Experiencing anger as an emotion surpasses mental health and is also relevant for physical health: suppressing and holding in anger may cause anxiety and stress, high blood pressure, headaches, digestive problems, and more. Unexpressed or inappropriately expressed anger can also damage relationships and cause unhealthy behavioral problems.

However, there are several practical steps you can take to deal with and manage anger. When you being to feel anger, try taking some slow, deep breaths from your diaphragm while counting to ten. You can also try repeating some calming, positive phrases to yourself like "relax," or "it's going to be okay." Another useful exercise to ameliorate anger is try to visualize yourself in the other person's shoes; this may help you understand their actions. You can also attempt to see the humor in a normally frustrating situation, and working on the ability to laugh at yourself and at life.
Although keeping anger inside and bottling it up is unhealthy, there are ways to express anger in ways that do not disrupt social relationships and lead to negative outcomes. Instead of having an outburst, try channeling your anger into assertiveness, in which you calmly explain your feelings, thoughts, and expectations in a given context. At the same time, work on developing strong listening skills, as strong communication can lead to fewer hostile feelings. It may also be useful to channel anger into certain athletic outlets such as kickboxing.
If you have tried tactics such as those discussed above and still feel as though your anger is out of control, you should seek help from a mental health professional.